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Many parents shudder at the thought. Some even experience a shortness or breath and heart palpitations when they imagine what might really<\/em> happen if they took their teenager\u2019s phone away as a consequence for poor choices.<\/p>\n

When you consider a teen\u2019s sheer dependency on their phone for a social and emotional connection to their peers, the thought of \u00a0voluntarily taking it from them makes about as much sense as putting your hand in a lion\u2019s cage to grab a piece of raw meat.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s scary, potentially hazardous, and might even seem impossible to consider.<\/p>\n

But don\u2019t stress\u2014it doesn\u2019t have to be any of those things.<\/p>\n

When we recently took our teen\u2019s phone away we learned some very valuable lessons, the first being that life goes on, your teen does not self-destruct, and taking away valued technology really can influence behavior.<\/p>\n

But (and there\u2019s always a \u2018but\u2019) there are pros and cons to this feared parenting maneuver you may want to consider. Oh, and a disclaimer: Every family dynamic is different so method and results<\/em> will vary.<\/p>\n

The Pros<\/strong><\/h2>\n

Verbal communication increases.<\/strong> Take away texting and social media from a teen and what do you get? You get a teen that talks and connects more with you and the whole family. All jesting aside, this sudden shift for us was a very positive change.<\/p>\n

You get to know his friends.<\/strong> Without a phone your teen will start using his friends\u2019 phones to contact you. Now, when he calls, you can easily add his friends\u2019 numbers to your contact list (friends you knew of and those you did not know). Getting to know your teens\u2019 friends better is a fun and informative.<\/p>\n

Family bond grows<\/strong>. With the phone gone, you may find a \u201cyes\u201d to invitations to family excursions where once there was a \u201cnaw, no thanks.\u201d Minus 24\/7 access to a phone, they will miss out on opportunities to hang with friends, play games on their phone or cruise social media sites. We noticed the quality<\/em> of our time together improved; there was more laughing and connection between our teen and us as well as between siblings.<\/p>\n

Attitude shift.<\/strong> When a cell phone goes away, a teen is abruptly reminded that a phone is a privilege not a right. And if they aren\u2019t paying the bill, which is usally the case, they will likely begin to appreciate their technology\u2014at least for a while.<\/p>\n

The Cons<\/strong><\/h2>\n

You can\u2019t find your kid.<\/strong> That\u2019s right. You will experience your own jolt when you notice how dependent you<\/em> have become to your teen having a cell phone. Taking his phone will be a big inconvienience and play with your peace of mind when you need to confirm his whereabouts, safety at home, or connecting in an emergency.<\/p>\n

They will get to technology.<\/strong> Teens are like hunting dogs when it comes to technology. They will find\u2014or rig\u2014other ways to communicate. Their friends will offer them old phones, they will jump on ichat on a PC or reconfigure other gadgets to talk with friends. This makes your \u201cbig\u201d move to take his phone more of a minor inconvience. They may even rely on other siblings\u2019 phones to communicate with their friends.<\/p>\n

It will cost you: time, money, and stress.<\/strong> Kids now rely on their phones for other things like alarm clocks, we realized. They will also \u201chave\u201d to check their email or Facebook mail on your phone to communicate with teachers or bosses if they work. You will also find yourself as a conduit between your teen and their boss or teachers, which can be stressful.<\/p>\n

The bottom line? Think long and hard before you take a phone away as a consequence\u2014but don\u2019t be afraid to do it. They will kick. They will scream. But they will survive (and so will you). And everyone will gain a little more respect for the gift of technology\u2014and think twice when it comes to losing it.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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